Life After Marriage
November 1, 2018
YAY. today is a good day I hope you all enjoy my post for the week*
I am very excited to write a little bit more about this topic. Because ever since I was a little girl I grew up knowing that I wanted to get married to an amazing man. Now that I am in college I get to experiment with people and find out what it is that I like. My parents showed me the way to love one another and that is something I dream for each day!My parents met while they were dating at BYU Provo. I am going to use their relationship for an example. They dated for about 9 months. They also met playing volleyball. From the start, they had a fast moving relationship full of just fun and activities. After doing lots of fun things together, they decided to get married. Throughout their marriage (especially after having kids) they had to make some adjustments. In my last blog post I wrote about dating before marriage. And this post I'm going to write about the adjustments made when two people actually get married. :) There is more than you think actually and I found it very interesting.
So we all know the whole deal before marriage, the dating, getting to know the person, having fun, than comes the serious part. The proposal, planning the wedding, and the honeymoon. OW OW. I feel like lowkey everyone in the world wants all of this to be perfect. The media plays it as the best day of your life. That all the world is so much better once you're married. But I believe there is still more work to do even after the honeymoon. The fight to have a happy marriage is a constant thing.
*One thing to keep in mind while dating before marriage* When you are dating and the things you do will most likely be the same things you do when you are married. So have fun! I think that it is best to find a way to date more than once a week. I also agree with the idea of doing activities and getting to know the person while you date them. You don't have to be set on marrying them just yet, that is part of the whole process. Buuuut anyways lets fast foward to the part where you do get married. We all realize that we have to make different adjustments in order to make a marriage work. Lets look at a few of them!
ADJUSTMENTS MADE IN MARRIAGE IN THE FIRST MONTH
We are constantly making an effort in our lives to become better people am I right? Just like that we try to make adjustments in order to be better, that is how marriage has to be. The urge to have a better marriage is what drives us to make adjustments. Here are some adjustments newly married couples have to make usually.
*Budgeting/finances
*Caring for someone else rather than yourself
*Friend groups become different
*Eating habits change
*Sharing your space
*Responsibilities/chores
*Balancing time
All of these points can be what newly married couples have to adjust to. But the difference between the first month of marriage and the first year of marriage is completely different! Let's compare
ADJUSTMENTS MADE IN MARRIAGE AFTER THE FIRST YEAR
*Holidays/spending time with family
*Children
*Interests
*Tradition
*Culture
As we discussed these points in class it made sense. I understand now that marriage is made up of adjustments. We have to figure out how to adjust to the other person's traditions and cultures. After being married for a year helps you realize a little better HOW to adjust. But my point is, is that marriage is not rainbows and butterflies. It is about solving problems with your spouse.
YAY. today is a good day I hope you all enjoy my post for the week*
I am very excited to write a little bit more about this topic. Because ever since I was a little girl I grew up knowing that I wanted to get married to an amazing man. Now that I am in college I get to experiment with people and find out what it is that I like. My parents showed me the way to love one another and that is something I dream for each day!My parents met while they were dating at BYU Provo. I am going to use their relationship for an example. They dated for about 9 months. They also met playing volleyball. From the start, they had a fast moving relationship full of just fun and activities. After doing lots of fun things together, they decided to get married. Throughout their marriage (especially after having kids) they had to make some adjustments. In my last blog post I wrote about dating before marriage. And this post I'm going to write about the adjustments made when two people actually get married. :) There is more than you think actually and I found it very interesting.
So we all know the whole deal before marriage, the dating, getting to know the person, having fun, than comes the serious part. The proposal, planning the wedding, and the honeymoon. OW OW. I feel like lowkey everyone in the world wants all of this to be perfect. The media plays it as the best day of your life. That all the world is so much better once you're married. But I believe there is still more work to do even after the honeymoon. The fight to have a happy marriage is a constant thing.
*One thing to keep in mind while dating before marriage* When you are dating and the things you do will most likely be the same things you do when you are married. So have fun! I think that it is best to find a way to date more than once a week. I also agree with the idea of doing activities and getting to know the person while you date them. You don't have to be set on marrying them just yet, that is part of the whole process. Buuuut anyways lets fast foward to the part where you do get married. We all realize that we have to make different adjustments in order to make a marriage work. Lets look at a few of them!
ADJUSTMENTS MADE IN MARRIAGE IN THE FIRST MONTH
We are constantly making an effort in our lives to become better people am I right? Just like that we try to make adjustments in order to be better, that is how marriage has to be. The urge to have a better marriage is what drives us to make adjustments. Here are some adjustments newly married couples have to make usually.
*Budgeting/finances
*Caring for someone else rather than yourself
*Friend groups become different
*Eating habits change
*Sharing your space
*Responsibilities/chores
*Balancing time
All of these points can be what newly married couples have to adjust to. But the difference between the first month of marriage and the first year of marriage is completely different! Let's compare
ADJUSTMENTS MADE IN MARRIAGE AFTER THE FIRST YEAR
*Holidays/spending time with family
*Children
*Interests
*Tradition
*Culture
As we discussed these points in class it made sense. I understand now that marriage is made up of adjustments. We have to figure out how to adjust to the other person's traditions and cultures. After being married for a year helps you realize a little better HOW to adjust. But my point is, is that marriage is not rainbows and butterflies. It is about solving problems with your spouse.
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