10/26/19 Week 6 Response to Attributional Tendencies

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First, I want you to think about these two questions...

How do you feel when you have reached success? How do you feel when you fail?


In our lives, we experience many different feelings. In my last post, I mentioned the word emotions. In this post, I want to talk about how you attribute your emotions. Specifically the feelings of success and failure. In other cultures, everyone attributes these feelings differently. Keep reading if you want to understand how this works!

There is a way that humans attribute their own successes and failures. Some tend to do so internally. Others may attribute it externally. What does this mean? To answer that question for you, there is a quote on the article here: https://wattersattribution.wordpress.com/attributions-for-success-and-failure/

It says: "Bernard Weiner theorized that people tend to focus on the stability of underlying behavior and attribute it to either success or failure in life." 

 So basically, the decisions you make will lead you to either success or failure, and everyone tends to either blame themselves or others for their success or failure. 



In the United States, the typical American will attribute their success internally. They will usually give themselves the most credit for reaching their success. They might say things like: "I deserve this!". With that being said, they also attribute their failure externally. Usually, they might blame other people for their failure.

This is a slippery slope in most cases. I think that we can understand how important it is to take ownership of our own failures, but also give credit where credit is due when we succeed.

Now, in Japan, they are the exact opposite of Americans. They tend to attribute their success externally and thank the other people in their lives for all the success they have had. Which is a great thing! However, they also attribute their failure internally...

This can lead to major consequences. Studies in Japan show that they have a suicide rate. Does attributing your failure internally have to do with that? Maybe. I feel that people shouldn't blame themselves for their failures. They should learn from them!

Professor Ivers said an AWESOME quote I just wanted to share to finish up my blog post. He says:

"Sometimes life will mess you up and sometimes it is your fault and sometimes it isn't. Sometimes it is other people's fault. Every circumstance is different."

If you are reading this, please understand that the decisions we make can affect our failure or success. It is important to make the right decisions, but not to blame yourself for failure. That is something really hard to get over sometimes, but in the long run, it is not worth it to feel bad about a mistake. The more mistakes or failures the better you become! 

That's all everyone, hope you enjoyed my post!  ☺



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