Week 5 Blog Post

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The ABC's in Marriage and Dating

Chapter 2

In this chapter of the book titled Successful Marriages and Families, it was eye-opening to read about the ABC's that help with your marriage and dating life. I found it very intriguing and loved reading this chapter. I am going to tell YOU about the ABC's and then you will be able to apply what you've learned to your life as will I.

It started with a man named George Levinger in 1983 who proposed the "five-phase development of heterosexual romantic relationships" (p. 16). He called them this: 

A. Awareness or Acquaintance with another person

B. Build-up of the relationship

C. Continuation following Commitment to a longterm relationship (which may result to marriage)

D. Deterioration or Decline in the interdependence of the couple;

E. Ending of the relationship


I have been in several relationships and reading about the steps of each relationship here has really helped me to understand why each relationship has worked out and why they haven't. It is truly interesting to see it all outlined like this isn't it? 

I want to invite you to take a look into your past relationships (if you feel comfortable), try to see at what point each of these phases happened. I know we can't control the past but it sure is intriguing to see which way it may have gone. 

Being married now, I see that my relationship is within the letter C, Commitment and Continuation. But, because of my past relationships, I know more about being in a healthy one and I found someone that I want to commit to. 

Here's my last thought, think about where you are in the ABC's of dating or marriage. Have your last relationships taught you about what a healthy relationship should be? 

That's all for today :) 

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